From the Leader of Wellbeing and Learning - Junior Campus
What is self-talk?
Self-talk is the way you talk to yourself, or your inner voice. You might not be aware that you're doing it, but you almost certainly are. This inner voice combines conscious thoughts with inbuilt beliefs and biases to create an internal monologue throughout the day.
Self-talk is important because it has a big impact on how you feel and what you do. It can be supportive and beneficial, motivating you, or it can be negative, undermining your confidence.
How can self-talk affect your mental health?
Your self-talk can affect your mental health and your relationships with others.
If you mainly think negatively about yourself, you will feel bad most of the time. This can drag you down or if you’re down, it can be hard to get back up. Negative self-talk is often experienced by people who have depression or anxiety. The constant negative chatter can be overwhelming and difficult to break out of. Negative self-talk can also lead to stress and a tendency towards perfectionism.
What are the benefits of positive self-talk?
If you mainly think positively about yourself, you will feel good and optimistic most of the time. Research shows that positive self-talk can:
- improve self-esteem, stress management and wellbeing
- reduce any symptoms of depression and anxiety
- improve your body image
- reduce your risk of self-harm and suicide
- make you feel more in control of your life
- motivate you to overcome obstacles
- help to calm you
Tips to improve positive self-talk
Practise thinking good things about yourself. Very simply, practise seeing half a glass as being half full, rather than half empty.
Identify your strengths as part of your self-talk, and accept compliments for what you achieved. A helpful way to improve positive self-talk is to look, think and act in a positive way. Surround yourself with positive and optimistic people.
Try to turn negative talk into neutral or positive self-talk.
Tips to stop negative self-talk
Negative self-talk can become repetitive and overwhelming and often feels like it’s true. To break out of that cycle try these tips:
- Be aware of what you’re saying to yourself. Just the act of stopping and recognising negative thoughts for what they are, is the first step to working through the problem. Ask yourself, would you talk like this to someone else?
- Challenge your thoughts. Ask yourself — is it true? (often it’s not). Ask yourself if there’s another explanation or way of looking at a situation. Remember that many things you worry about don’t happen. Much negative self-talk is exaggerated.
- Put your thoughts into perspective (so what?). Try to look at things from a different perspective. Perhaps from a different person’s perspective. Try writing your thoughts down or saying them out loud. Ask yourself will this matter in a few year’s time?
- Stop the thought. You can do this ‘thought stopping’ technique visually — by imagining the thought being stopped or squashed.
- Replace the thought with a neutral or positive thought. Ask yourself — what is a more helpful thought?
Resources and support
For more information contact:
- ReachOut — online resources to help with self-talk and self-confidence
- Beyond Blue (anyone feeling depressed or anxious) — call 1300 22 4636 or chat online
- Lifeline (anyone having a personal crisis) — call 13 11 14 or chat online
Mrs Andrea Utoikamanu
Leader of Wellbeing and Learning - Junior Campus
Leader of Wellbeing - Year 10